21st century concious capitalism. Making money while making humanity a priority

3 key traits of compassionate leaders

Resilience

The link between gratitude and success

setting boundaries

changing the inner dialogue

Success Vs the inner saboteur

Is it really possible to not bring our personal stories with us to work? Everyone has personal struggles outside of our working environment, that impacts the way each of us behave and perform at work. Employee development needs to take into account the personal struggles and beliefs people hold. If it does not, how does anyone expect to get the most out of them self or their team.

How are you, as a business or team leader meant to get the best for and of your team if you don't even have a faint understanding of the things that hinder them or you? 

Here are two examples of how our "stories" get in the way of success:

Amanda is a 55 year old woman who set up her business in her early 30's. Born in the 60's, she witnessed and experienced all of the things women had to endure in terms of discrimination and inequality. There have been major advances since then to address inequalities and discrimination, yet while the legislation may have changed. For Amanda it was still difficult to establish herself as a serious player in her field, so she felt she had to take on the characteristics of her alpha male counterparts for fear of failing and not been taken seriously. Amanda carries a resentment towards her father from her early childhood, does not have a good relationship with her husband, her children have left to university and she is so afraid of losing. In her fear she has begun to express herself in a way that isn't how she wishes to come across, the people who work for her see her as "the dragon", who is unreasonable and unapproachable.  

Amanda is carrying her baggage with her and sabotaging the very business that she fought so hard to create in the first place. Amanda needs to find a way of addressing all the baggage and refocus on her main goals and drivers for starting her business in the first place and if they are no longer relevant, then she needs to find new drivers to motivate her and keep her connected. Assuming she still wants her business to do well. 

Adam is a young 25 year old lad who is really hungry to make his mark, he doesn't like to take direction from anyone and has been disrespectful to his team leader. Adam grew up in a middle class very academic household and didn't acheive the grades that were expected of him, nor did he choose a career that his parents would have deemed pride worthy. He feels their disappointment and is angry, he feels he is not good enough so acts out with his colleagues. He needs help with separating all "authority" figures, from that of his parents and to work out his personal goals. It would be good for Adam to experience how he might be coming across to other people, as he acts out, and how this might be keeping him stuck with the label of bratty child. 

 The question is whats stopping you from working through and parking your own "stuff"?

Get a coach who will focus on helping you with your career and help address the personal "stuff".  When I work with clients I help them look at those personal issues from different perspectives, and they find new ways of addressing those deep rooted issues. Work "stuff" then becomes significantly easier. And create the success that they want. Once you know how your inner saboteur acts out, you can learn to stop being your own worst enemy.